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​"If you're not stubborn, you'll give up on experiments too soon.  And if you're not flexible, you'll pound your head against the wall and you won't see a different solution to a problem you're trying to solve."    Jeff Bezos

New Podcast

7/9/2017

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I published a new podcast today on Sexuality and Autism Spectrum Disorders 5-Systemizing, Empathizing, and Interpersonal Synchrony.  I'm really excited for today's podcast.  It covers two areas:  Systemizing vs. Empathizing and Interpersonal Synchronization that I wasn't certain how I would fit in to this series of podcasts.  The second subject, Interpersonal Synchronization, is of particular interest because I feel it is under-discussed, and its impact is often unrecognized.  Here is the link for the transcript for this podcast: sexuality_and_autism_spectrum_disorders_5-neuro_frameworks_2.pdf.  As always, my podcast can be found at:  flexiblemindtherapy.podbean.com/ or on iTunes at: itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-flexiblemindtherapys-podcast/id1233264485.  ​
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New Podcast Published

6/28/2017

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Today I published a new podcast on Sexuality and Autism Spectrum Disorders 0:  Overall Introduction.  In it, I took a step back to the beginning of the podcasts on ASD and Sexual Development to provide a bit of context and scope for this series of podcasts. I realized that I hadn't provided enough scope or context for either why I, as a speech-language pathologist, was interested in and discussing sociosexual development and individuals with ASD, as well as what was going to be discussed around approaches and strategies for addressing needs or areas of growth.  Here is the link for the transcript for this podcast:  sexuality_and_autism_spectrum_disorders_0-intro.pdf.  As always, my podcast can be found at:  flexiblemindtherapy.podbean.com/ or on iTunes at: itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-flexiblemindtherapys-podcast/id1233264485.  ​
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New Resource Pages

6/22/2017

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I've just added two new resource pages under the Resource Section:  Addiction and ASD and Behavior and ASD.  I've been focusing on my webpage a little more the last couple of weeks, and haven't gotten a new podcast up.  I will be working to get a couple of new podcasts up in the next week, and will try to get a bit more back on schedule for them.
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New Links Added to Links Page

6/13/2017

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I've added new links to the Links page under Autism Spectrum Disorders.  A new section was also created on Transition-Related topics with new resources added there.  
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New page added to resources:  Law Enforcement, Criminal Justice, Offending, and Individuals with ASD

6/2/2017

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I just added a new page under the resources section that contains links to articles, websites, and books on Law Enforcement, Criminal Justice, Offending, and Individuals with ASD.  These resources cover a number of different topics, including:  educational information, risk management, questioning or interrogating someone with ASD, interviewing victims with ASD, involvement in the criminal justice system, and information about individuals with ASD who do commit criminal offenses.  
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New Podcast:  Sexuality and Autism Spectrum Disorders 4-Neuropsychological Frameworks

6/1/2017

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​In today's podcast, we will explore the Neuropsychological Frameworks that may explain the behavior of individuals with ASD.  These frameworks (Weak Central Coherence, Context Blindness, Theory of Mind, and Executive Functions) will then discussed within the context of sociosexual development and expression of individuals with ASD.  Here is the link for the transcript for this podcast:  sexuality_and_autism_spectrum_disorders_4-neuro_frameworks.pdf.  As always, my podcast can be found at:  flexiblemindtherapy.podbean.com/ or on iTunes at: itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-flexiblemindtherapys-podcast/id1233264485.  ​
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New Podcast:  Sexuality and Autism Spectrum Disorders 3-Ableism

5/16/2017

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On today's podcast, I discuss the first of the extrinsic (or external) factors that impact on the sociosexual development of individuals with ASD:  Ableism.  For those unfamiliar with ableism, it is "a form of discrimination or prejudice against individuals with physical, mental, or developmental disabilities that is characterized by the belief that these individuals need to be fixed or cannot function as full members of society" (Castañeda & Peters, 2000).  It is also one of the largest hindrances to the sociosexual development of individuals with ASD according to a number of authors.  The link for the transcript is:  sexuality_and_autism_spectrum_disorders_3-ableism.pdf.  As always, my podcast can be found at:  flexiblemindtherapy.podbean.com/ or on iTunes at: itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-flexiblemindtherapys-podcast/id1233264485.  
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New Podcast:  Sexuality and Autism Spectrum Disorders--Social Challenges

5/12/2017

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I've just completed second podcast for my podcast station on an "Sexuality and Autism Spectrum Disorders--Social Challenges."  This podcast reviews many of the social challenges that individuals with Autism Spectrum Disorders experience, as well as discussing some of the impacts of these challenges on sociosexual development. Here is a link to my podcast:  http://flexiblemindtherapy.podbean.com/
And, here is a transcript, along with citations and bibliography, for this podcast: sexuality_and_autism_spectrum_disorders_2--social_challenges.pdf
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New Podcast:  Introduction to Sexuality in Individuals with ASD

5/3/2017

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I've just completed the first podcast for my new podcast station on an "Introduction to Sexuality in Individuals with ASD."  This podcast episode introduces basic concepts related to development of sexuality in neurotypical individuals, as well as introduces some initial topics related to sexuality and individuals with ASD.  Over time, I hope to add many more podcasts on this subject.  Here is a link to my podcast:  flexiblemindtherapy.podbean.com/e/introduction-to-sexuality-in-individuals-with-asd/
And, here is a transcript, along with citations and bibliography, for this first podcast:  introduction_to_sexuality_and_asd.pdf.  
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A Short Introduction to Flexibility

3/13/2017

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Many years ago, I was supposed to test a young man to determine if I would be able to assist his school team in developing a plan for working with some of his underlying challenges.  Per members of his team, this young man often seemed belligerent, short-tempered, and even oppositional at times.  When I came to get him for testing, at a time that I had arranged with both he and his teacher beforehand, he seemed to demonstrate some of this “oppositional” behavior.  He was on the computer, and he told me that he couldn’t get off the computer to come see me at that time.  At first, seeing him through the lens that the other professionals had given me, I saw him as being resistant.  But thankfully, I remembered that the teacher had told me earlier that he might have difficulty getting off the computer if he was on it when I came to see him.  I took a moment before responding to reflect on what he was telling me.  He couldn’t come with me right now; not that he wouldn’t come with me right now.  This was not an active choice, but one dictated by his being stuck in the pattern that he was currently involved in.  Once I considered this, I told him that I understood that he couldn’t see me at that time, but that I was sure that he would be able to see me at a later, specific, time when he wouldn’t be involved in the computer.  When I came to see him later, I found him to be ready for me, and quite willing to participate in the testing that I had to do with him. 
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In many ways, it is quite simple to define, and come up with examples of, instances where we don’t exhibit flexibility.  The example in the opening paragraph contains two such instances, both the young man’s difficulty getting off the computer, and the initial “lens” that I used to view this behavior through. 

Rigidity.  Being Stuck.  Bias.  Stereotypes.  Rumination.  Perseveration.  These words all describe states that brought on by not having a flexible mind.  Some of these states (i.e., bias and stereotypes) are short cuts that our brains take to simplify our thinking about others, situations, philosophies, etc.  Others of these states (i.e., rumination, perseveration, rigidity, and being stuck) describe mental states that we get into when we are unable to shift our thinking.  Having to adhere to a schedule, way to get to work, idea about how things need to be, or need to complete something before one can move on to other tasks may all be functional examples that many of us experience of this type of lack of flexibility. 

What can be harder to do is define, and give examples of, what it means to have a flexible mind.  Part of the reason for this is the very struggle described above with resisting inflexible, or rigid, thinking.  We can feel so right, and even justified, in our “rigidity.”  That guy is a “jerk” because his beliefs don’t coincide with mine.  Those people are “wrong” because they don’t live their lives like I believe that they should.  Everyone knows…  These are such subtle, and yet powerful ways, that inflexibility, rigidity, seep into our everyday lives. 

But, what does this have to do with the young man described in the beginning paragraph?  It is so tempting at times to look at others, like those with Autism Spectrum Disorders, and make judgments about them.  They need to stop perseverating on their “special interest” and settle down and just do their homework/work/chores around the house.  They need to learn to be less rigid.  They need to learn to interact in the “real world.”   But, there were two people in the example who exhibited inflexibility, both the young man and myself.  Luckily for the two of us, one of us could use other resources to become flexible in his thinking so that we both could move on from this situation where we could have been stuck. 

To understand how I became flexible in my thinking, we first should explore a little bit about flexibility.  Let’s start with considering a key concept in flexibility called, Set.  Set refers to: “the preparation of neural resources for expected sensory input or motor response in the course of executive performance (Fuster, 2008).”  Wikipedia goes on to further clarify that a set, in this context, is a “group of expectations that shape experience by making people especially sensitive to specific kinds of information.  (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Set_(psychology).”  So, set is our brains’ way of guiding our current experiences through the lens of our past experiences.  Our perceptions, beliefs, thoughts, ideas, and ways of thinking about others/situations, all have a reciprocal relationship with the current set we may have in an area; both with our past experiences influencing our current expectations, as well as our current experiences influencing our future expectations. 

What do we do when we come to an experience/situation where expectations derived from previous experiences either don’t fit for the current experience, or are incompatible with the current experience?  The flexible mind can recognize the differences between the current experience and past experience, or identify that expectations elicited by past experiences are incompatible with the current experience.  In these situations, the flexible mind shifts away from the inaccurate or incompatible expectations and toward other mental states, rule sets, or responses that better fit the experience/situation (Best & Miller, 2010). 

And, in many ways, that is what I did in the opening example.  When I considered the young man’s response, that he couldn’t come with me, I found that this response was incompatible with the information that I had been given to me about the young man ahead of time, the he was oppositional.  He wasn’t belligerent, rude, or resistant.  He was just unable to honor my request to see him at that time.  And so, I presented a response that was incompatible with previous responses that he experienced in situations such as this; I expressed my understanding and then primed him for future success when I would see him next.  By doing this, I removed the obstacle that was getting us stuck, and allowed us to come to a solution that met both of our needs.
And, at its core, this is what having a flexible mind is all about.  Having the capacity to shift my incompatible sets/expectations (thoughts, emotions, perceptions, awareness, etc.) to more compatible sets/expectations for my experiences.  By doing this, I am then able to respond more adaptively to my environment.  This practice also helps me to become aware of times when I am becoming rigid, and enact plans (coping strategies) that help me to return to greater flexibility.  

Bibliography
​Best, J. R., & Miller, P. H. (2010). A Developmental Perspective on Executive Function. Child Development, 1641-1660.
Fuster, J. M. (2008). The Prefrontal Cortex: Fourth Edition. London: Academic Press.

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